I created a personal rule for myself. I don’t remember when, but it was probably after leaving a large group one day, which, for me, means more than two people.
Here’s the rule: whenever a friend contacts me to have a meal or coffee, it’s a priority for me (if possible). It usually leads to a meaningful, one-on-one conversation.
Being in groups is challenging for me because I'm not the type of person who speaks up. In group settings, I prefer to observe rather than participate, and don’t even think about putting me on the spot. However, when someone wants to break bread with me one-on-one, I’m more engaged and can dive deep into conversation. It's something I crave.
Recently, I went to see “Jesus Revolution” with a friend. Afterward, we hung out in the concessions area, away from the crowd, and discussed how the movie impacted us. That’s the type of conversation that works its way into my soul and stays there.
What about you? When a friend asks you out, how quickly do you accept the invitation?
